Understandably, you might want your child to live with you all or most of the time when you divorce. Kids are not kids forever, so you need to make the most of their childhood.
However, before you go rushing to the divorce court to fight over custody, there are a few things to consider:
Is it best for your child?
You may feel you are better able to care for your child than your co-parent, but children typically benefit from spending time with both parents. You and your co-parent are different and can each contribute much to your child’s development.
Can you afford primary custody?
You can seek child support to help, but you will still need to earn money to run your household alone. You will need to work (or work even more), which will be difficult with your parenting duties and could require considerable expenditure on child care. The holidays and summer vacations can be particularly challenging.
Is it best for you?
While you may be willing to sacrifice yourself for your children, it is not necessarily a good idea. They stand to gain much more if you also have a life outside them. Time apart will allow you to recharge your batteries, so you are at your best with them.
Pursuing your own interests will help you feel more fulfilled and give you more to bring back to them. For instance, if you take night classes at art school or get a job with a local florist, you will learn things that you can share with your kids.
Getting legal help to examine what type of custody agreement works for parents and children is far better than each parent trying to get what they want.